Relationships
To understand the lives of American youth, we must strive to understand the relationships that are meaningful to them. In the NYS surveys, we try to include many questions on relationships with family members, romantic partners, and friends. What we have found is that family, and relationships to parents in particular, are important to most participants. In addition to parents, most NYS participants (65 percent) say that they have between one and five adults to turn to for support, while 30 percent report having six or more adults to turn to (at the time of the Wave 2 survey).
Closeness to Mothers
Of those participants who report living with a mother at the time of the Wave 2 survey, most reported feeling very or extremely close to her (73 percent). Another 19 percent said they feel fairly close to their mother, and only nine percent said they feel between somewhat close to and not close at all to their mother.
| Feel Close to Mom |
| Not close at all |
1% |
| Not very close |
1% |
| Somewhat close |
7% |
| Fairly close |
19% |
| Very close |
45% |
| Extremely close |
28% |
Closeness to Fathers
For those who report living with a father at the time of the Wave 2 survey, 56 percent reported feeling extremely or very close to him. Another 25 percent said that they feel fairly close, and 19 percent said that they feel between somewhat close to and not close at all to their father. If we compare this table to Table 1, we see that as a group, NYS youth consider themselves somewhat closer to their mothers than to their fathers.
| Feel Close to Dad |
| Not close at all |
3% |
| Not very close |
4% |
| Somewhat close |
12% |
| Fairly close |
25% |
| Very close |
38% |
| Extremely close |
18% |
Parents
When we look at the responses from the Wave 2 survey we see that the large majority of NYS parents are married and living together (67 percent). Fourteen percent of NYS parents are divorced and the other 19 percent of our participants have a parent, or parents, living in various other situations, such as living with a boyfriend or girlfriend, widowed, separated, or never married.
| Living Arrangement of NYS Participants' Parents |
| Married |
67% |
| Living Together, Unmarried |
5% |
| Widowed |
2% |
| Divorced |
14% |
| Separated |
5% |
| Never Married |
7% |
Dating
We asked our participants, in the Wave 2 survey, when they started dating and we received a range of responses. However, of those who had started dating, the majority reported first beginning to date between the ages of 14 and 16.
| Age Participant First Dated |
| Age 12 or under |
10% |
| Age 13 |
14% |
| Age 14 |
17% |
| Age 15 |
20% |
| Age 16 |
17% |
| Age 17 |
7% |
| Age 18 or older |
3% |
| Not yet dating |
12% |